#1: A Bit About How I Got Here...

I have found myself up against many challenges throughout my life thus far.  I have experienced both ends of the spectrum with regards to food, exercise, weight, relationships, finances, career, physical health, and emotional health.  I have seen the connections between mind, body, and spirit; how you cannot affect one without also affecting the others. 

One day, about three years ago, I noticed a few patterns in my life. 

I realized that I had the tendency to follow life paths that others (even with the best of intentions) told me I should follow.  For example, “you should behave this or that way in a relationship,” or “you should take this or that job for financial stability.”  It occurred to me that I was so busy trying to just get through life by making the most logical decisions with the most logical advice… that I wasn’t really living it.  I noticed that I rarely asked myself who I actually was and what would actually make me happy. 

I was very busy trying to be “perfect” and constantly put everyone else first, even when it came to decisions about my own life and my own happiness.  It is a wonderful thing to help others and make them happy, but it is impossible to fully be there for your friends/family if you are not first true to yourself. 

I also noticed that everything seemed to be about an "end game" - setting myself up for happiness at some point in the abstract future rather than making choices for happiness here in the present.

I was pretty annoyed with myself for having taken so long to see these patterns... but I knew what I needed to do.  I needed to understand that making myself a priority is far different than being selfish.  I think a lot of people have a hard time with this concept.  It took a minute, but... I started putting myself first.  I re-evaluated the relationships in my life, started taking short vacations, and began to dabble in a few hobbies that I had been putting off. 

Less than a year later, I realized I had gotten to know myself better than I ever had, and I felt amazing!  I looked in the mirror, saw beauty I hadn’t seen before, and I said to myself, “I feel fancy!”  Fancy is a state of mind, a state of being.  I had finally found my “fancy,” and I cannot wait to help you find yours!

Shannyn Marlen