#8: Which Way is Up?!
Aha, where do I start?! First of all, Happy Sunday! Thank you for visiting The Journal. I do hope you have enjoyed everything thus far... if you are new to the read, start at Entry #1 so you don't miss any of the insights or references... there are a few little gems, I believe!
So, which way IS up? I successfully piled my plate so high this week (metaphorically speaking), that I barely remembered my own name. I couldn't tell which way was up, and I had a wild case of analysis paralysis (analytical? who, ME?!). I became overwhelmed with those sneaky little "what ifs," projecting way too far into the future, worrying needlessly (because ALL worrying is needless), and seemingly accomplished nothing. SEEMINGLY.
Then, I remembered something. I AM AWESOME. Anyone else?!
Who else is awesome out there?! Um, YOU are!
I looked at my Instagram profile page and ended up inspiring myself. Now, I can be a tough cookie when people need me to be (you can take the girl out of the ER, but you can't take the ER out of the girl!)... and I am personally the stubborn type (shocking!). So, I told myself, "You are AWESOME! And now you need to dial it back and check yourself." So, for those of you who have these same tendencies, here are a few good tips:
1. Remind yourself that YOU ARE AWESOME! (not in a whiny, entitled, "poor me" way (you know the type); but in that relaxing, refreshing, genuine way... because you can legitimately explain to yourself - and anyone else - why you are, in fact, so very awesome)
2. When it SEEMS like you have accomplished nothing, I will bet you a dime to a dollar that isn't accurate. I look back on my week, and I accomplished A LOT... and in those instances when something didn't quite pan out as hoped, well, I learned a lesson in it (this takes practice; you can get there - I can help!)... and a lesson is ALWAYS an accomplishment.
3. Make a list. No joke, this saves my life! Get it out of your head and onto paper... then, it all becomes something manageable; it is no longer the scary monster that you can't "see."
4. Step out of your present circumstances. Take a 20 minute walk or meditation, play with your kids or your pets - something to this effect - and commit to NOT thinking about all that overwhelms you. When you come back, break down the list from #3 into small pieces and tackle accordingly, but with a refreshed mind and spirit.
5. Here is a piece of advice that was given by a speaker at the luncheon I attended this week, and I love it: "Nothing is ever as good or as bad as it seems." Quick translation: be humble, and let it go.
I could go on with life hacks like this... ah, a future book! I have healed so much of myself through mindset. I can, even during very stressful times, laugh and pretend to grab myself by the shoulders and say, "Get a hold of yourself, lady!" Mindset is actually a big part of my coaching practice, and I so enjoy it because I've been there and made it through to the other side. I know how it feels not to be there yet... and it is so exciting to help someone GET there. It is really a practice that needs to be honed, but it works; it really, truly works.
In conclusion: When you think there is no way out, then there isn't. When you remind yourself to stop, breathe, and believe there is a way, then there is. Which will you choose?