#1: A Bit About How I Got Here...
I have found myself up against many challenges throughout my life thus far. I have experienced both ends of the spectrum with regards to food, exercise, weight, relationships, finances, career, physical health, and emotional health. I have seen the connections between mind, body, and spirit; how you cannot affect one without also affecting the others.
One day, about three years ago, I noticed a few patterns in my life.
I realized that I had the tendency to follow life paths that others (even with the best of intentions) told me I should follow. For example, “you should behave this or that way in a relationship,” or “you should take this or that job for financial stability.” It occurred to me that I was so busy trying to just get through life by making the most logical decisions with the most logical advice… that I wasn’t really living it. I noticed that I rarely asked myself who I actually was and what would actually make me happy.
I was very busy trying to be “perfect” and constantly put everyone else first, even when it came to decisions about my own life and my own happiness. It is a wonderful thing to help others and make them happy, but it is impossible to fully be there for your friends/family if you are not first true to yourself.
I also noticed that everything seemed to be about an "end game" - setting myself up for happiness at some point in the abstract future rather than making choices for happiness here in the present.
I was pretty annoyed with myself for having taken so long to see these patterns... but I knew what I needed to do. I needed to understand that making myself a priority is far different than being selfish. I think a lot of people have a hard time with this concept. It took a minute, but... I started putting myself first. I re-evaluated the relationships in my life, started taking short vacations, and began to dabble in a few hobbies that I had been putting off.
Less than a year later, I realized I had gotten to know myself better than I ever had, and I felt amazing! I looked in the mirror, saw beauty I hadn’t seen before, and I said to myself, “I feel fancy!” Fancy is a state of mind, a state of being. I had finally found my “fancy,” and I cannot wait to help you find yours!